Full Moon Moments


In Developmental Theory we discussed the concept of the “full moon moment”, or a time in which we are shining with accomplishment. In that moment, if caught at the right time, praise and acknowledgment can help propel us forward. Or, if not caught, can lend to an even deeper need for acknowledgment, as well as developmental stagnation. I think I’ve been very fortunate in this area. There are so many moments that, when I look back, have helped guide my trajectory in a positive way. I know my strengths. I also know many weaknesses. I am so often surprised at how many people are able to rattle off weakness after weakness, but are stumped when prompted to list their strengths. There is also a difference between a true confidence, and an area of sensitivity hiding behind hubris. This is not to say that I am free of those moments–I certainly have as much ego as the next person. I also know what it is like to be genuinely confident without being enslaved by ego.

I am grateful that I have had many advocates, many supporters. In addition to family members, my encouragers have most often been educators. People who meet me now are often surprised that I am an introverted observer, and was once painfully shy. That is until they see me at a party, or, heaven forbid, in a potentially flirtatious interaction. The tremendous personal growth I have made is due to a lot of hard work, but also due to the potential others have recognized in me. I am lucky. Without those honest but unexpected nudges, I know I would not be where I am at currently. Teachers from elementary to high school to college and beyond have lent me the courage I needed when I did not have it, as well as the permission to know what I am good at. I also know the feelings that occur when my full moon moments are denied or deflated. Again, and I cannot say it enough, I am so grateful that those experiences have not formed the majority of my meaning-making.

I wish I was better at affirmation and acknowledgment. I am a recognizer and encourager of strengths, but I am not good at the gooshy stuff. As a matter of fact, flowery affirmation still makes me uncomfortable when directed at me (even though I appreciate it later). While I can intellectually see other’s emotional needs, I am not always equipped to meet them. I am an excellent listener, and I can be steadfast in times of chaos or need. I am not an empathizer. It is my mission this year to be more cognizant of other’s full moon moments, so that rather than squashing them with a correction or dry joke (no matter how entertaining) I can be a nurturing element in their lives. I’m not a social worker, I have to be jealous of my energies because I am so easily depleted of them. I am an educator at heart. I am an encourager. I want to help others help themselves.

So, as cheesy as this sounds, thank you to my supporters. Thank you to my teachers (in and out of the classroom) and supervisors who have recognized my talents before I have, to my advisors who have encouraged my interests and drawn out my talents and personality. Thank you to the community members and family and friends and advocates–for your patience with my areas that need growth but mostly, thank you for the gift of knowing me. This is a gift I will always cherish, and hope to pass on to others:

The gift of self-knowledge, the gift of self-worth and self-respect, the permission to honor the self as one would honor others.

So often in the culture of care, the self is the one person not taken into consideration. Which, unfortunately, depletes the self’s ability to care for others.

It is not selfish to think of oneself.

It is self-hurting and disingenuous not to.

Sincerely, Emilie

Philosophisms: Part Two


As I am half-way done with my final (done for tonight), I thought I would share with you all my favorite quotes from the second half of the semester:

“All that is comes from the mind”

“The solution to the problem of identity is, get lost.” –Norman O’Brown

“Look at the means a man employs; consider his motives. A man simply cannot conceal himself.” –Confucius

“I think that there is nothing, not even crime, more opposed to poetry, to philosophy, ay, to life itself than this incessant business”–Henry David Thoreau

“Mass society, with its demand for work without responsibility, creates a gigantic army of rival siblings.” –Alexander Misterlich

“Never try to make anyone like yourself–you know, and God knows, that one of you is enough.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Dread is a desire for what one fears, a sympathetic antipathy.”–Søren Kierkegaard

“As a rule we disbelieve all facts and theories for which we have no use.”

“Just as a bicycle chain may be too tight, so may one’s carefulness and conscientiousness be so tense as to hinder the running of one’s mind.”–William James

“We are all ready to be savage in some cause. The difference between a good man and a bad one is the choice of the cause.”–William James

“God is real since he produces real effects.”–William James

“Choosing a philosophy is a test of character.”–William James

“One cannot criticize the vision of a mystic–one can but pass it by, or accept it as having some amount of evidential weight.”–William James

“The healthy-minded […] need to be born only once […] sick souls […] must be born twice–born in order to be happy. The result is two different conceptions of the universe of our experience.”–William James

“What the hell, reality is a nice place to visit but you wouldn’t want to live there.”–John Barth.

“I have chosen for myself the word immoralist as a mark of distinction and badge of honour.”–Friedrich Nietsche

“I think of myself as the scrawl which an unknown power scribbles across a sheet of paper, to try out a new pen.”–Friedrich Nietsche

“Did you ever say Yes to joy? O my friends, then you said yes to all woe as well. All things are chained and entwined together, all things are in love…”–Friedrich Nietsche

“That everyone can learn to read will ruin in the long run not only writing, but thinking too.”–Friedrich Nietsche*

“Another century of readers–and the mind itself will stink.”–Friedrich Nietsche*

“One does not kill by anger but by laughter. Come, let us kill the Spirit of Gravity.”–Friedrich Nietsche

“It is better to be envied than pitied.”–Herodotus

“There are no evil thoughts except one=the refusal to think.”–Ayn Rand

“Insofar as we believe in morality we pass sentence on existence.”–Friedrich Nietsche

“No victor believes in chance.”–Friedrich Nietsche

“Isn’t it curious that, although I know I have not long to live, I never find myself thinking about a “future life”. All my interest is still on this life and the writing I am still able to do.”—Ludwig Wittgenstein

“The Philosopher’s treatment of a question is like the treatment of an illness.”—Ludwig Wittgenstein

“Philosophers were hired by the comfortable classes to prove that everything is all right.” Oliver Wendell Holmes+

“Man is not the lord of beings. Man is the Shepherd of Being.”–Martin Heidegger

“The world of explanations and reasons is not the world of existence.”–Jean-Paul Sartre

“The magic word of modernity is society.”–George Will

“There are, indeed, things which cannot be put into words. They make themselves manifest. They are what is magical.” –L. Wittgenstein

“Can one live in reason’s kingdom […] and still be a creature of wonder, grief, and love?”–Martha C. Rossbaum

“Wisdom has never been a social norm; talking about wisdom, on the other hand, seems to be.”–Giuseppe Vergasinii

“The foolish live waiting for good things to happen. Since they know these things are uncertain they are consumed by fear and anxiety”–Seneca

“Receive each moment of accumulating time as though it came about by an incredible stroke of luck.”–Pierre Hadot

“The life of a fool is hard and worrisome. It is wholly devoured by the future.”–Cicero

“Soon we shall breathe our last. Meanwhile, while we live, while we are among human beings, let us cultivate humanity.”–Seneca

“The untrained mind shivers with excitement at everything it hears.”–Heraclitus

“While we’re waiting to live, life passes us by.”–Pierre Hadot

“If you come to doubt whether a specific person is a prophet or not, certainty can only be reached by acquaintance with his conduct, either by personal observation, or by hearsay as a matter of common knowledge.”–Abu Hamid Muhammed Al-Ghazali

“The lessons of wisdom are not new, just hard to take sometimes–and easy to forget when things are going well.”–Douglas J. Soccio

–A note about the last quote: Douglas J. Soccio is the author of our textbook. It made me laugh really hard when he threw his quote into a colored box in the margin…but it was good so I wrote it down.

I have thoroughly enjoyed this class, although I found the quizzes to be poorly constructed, the exams to be elementary in structure, and the way the class discussions developed was rather inane.

The content, and even the text, I found interesting, and I enjoyed my additions to the discussions (even if in the end I was pretty much boycotted by my peers, because I actually demanded a response more intelligent than “good post.”)

I have found the experience of taking an online course to be very convenient and right up my alley–I love being able to take my quizzes and exams whenever convenient to me, I liked having the time to think out my answers in class discussion (since we were not using a sort of forum instead of chat room), and the interface was simple enough to use. I would highly recommend Centralia College’s online program, if you have some basic classes you still need to take.

Sincerely,

Emilie

P.S.   *I do not buy these two quotes, but I stuck them up anyway because they made me laugh. I just wanted to pinch his little cheeks and then give him a hug and tell him everything is going to be ok. I, in case you had any doubt, am a strong supporter of literacy (and libraries) for all!

P.P.S   +I don’t really buy this, but, at times, I kind of do.